Obviously you all know that you have option to comment on any of my blog posts, and I absolutely LOVE it when you do! So, totally keep that up. I got a question on my last post in the comments, and generally if I think it’s something more than one person might want the answer to – I will post it here and respond “publicly”, if you will.
So “Taylor” writes:
“I’ve been subscribed to your blog for over a month and nothing satisfies you. Post an example of something that a guy said that actually worked for you. Your glass is always half empty…as lame as all the messages you get it still gets depressing you’re shooting 99% of them down. The successful Tawkify phone calls that worked for you, post examples of why it worked for you. Toss your male readers a bone.”
First and foremost, I would like to point out that my blog is entitled “Soon2BeCatLady – Why I’ll Soon Be A Crazy Cat Lady” and not “How To Be Successful in Online Dating.” I don’t anticipate I will ever post anything that “satisfies” me, because that’s really not the point – I’m actually going for the “humor” piece, if you will.
But- as I’ve said before, there are messages that I do respond to, and don’t blog about… I could blog about them, but they lack entertainment value. Honestly, what works for me may not work for another girl. I had a podcast interview with Karl Mamer, and part of our discussion included that guys seem to think there is a “One-size-fits-all” approach when it comes to the ladies, and that is SO not the case. As I am sure you know by now, girls are weird and crazy. (I also hope that listening to this podcast also enlightens the “glass half empty” opinion you have of me. People who know me in real life understand that the amount of pessimism I carry is almost zilch.)
But “throw you a bone”, I will. This is what works for me: Engage me in a conversation. (This also works in so many other aspects of life..) I feel like my online dating profile is full of information that you could start a conversation about… I understand some are more generic. (And that sucks.) If you send me a message online that says, “Hey CatLady, I read on your profile that you frequent the gym. What is your favorite workout machine, or the one you use most frequently?” I will probably respond to that. That would indicate that you read my profile and find me interesting, instead of just “hot.” If I get a message that could be copied and pasted to anyone, I will assume you didn’t read my profile and I’m just a piece of meat to you. (Is that always the case? NO. I get that.. but it only takes a couple seconds extra to ask me about something I have referenced. – I can’t be expected to carry the conversation if you have messaged me first.)
Same goes for Tawkify as well – I have enjoyed the conversations more when it wasn’t interview questions back and forth, and an actual discussion about something.
Really, that’s the only advice I can give you that’s easily accomplished. If a girl doesn’t respond because she doesn’t find you attractive, I can’t advise on that. (However I have said before, and will say again and again.. People aren’t always what they look like in pictures… and that goes BOTH ways.) I think online dating needs to progress beyond “window shopping.” Just because you find someone attractive doesn’t mean that their personality will mesh with yours, you know what I’m saying?
Anyway- That’s really I have to say on it. If my blog doesn’t entertain you, use it as a guide for “What NOT to do.”
Hopefully I answered your question to your liking.. if not, well… I don’t know what to tell you.