In December of 2011, I met a guy online who I went out with a few times. In my very first online interaction with him, and told him about this blog. When he asked to see it, I told him I would share on 2.5 conditions. One of those conditions was that if he ends up on my blog he is not to get pissed off. Today – he ends up on this blog, and he is not allowed to be pissy about it. (Although unlikely.)
So – anyway… this guy’s name is Jon, and Jon got a message today from a girl that said:
“hi id love if you read my profile”
For starters – as you all know – CRAPPY first message. Not that it justifies it by any means, but girls can get away with this easier than guys can. (Although I would advise you guys not to put up with this.) Jon looked at her profile and said he wasn’t overly enthused about this girl – but decided to be nice and respond anyway.
“Hey [Girl's Name],
I took a look around your profile, you seem like a great person. I’m gonna be forward here, the kid is probably a deal breaker but if you’re really awesome, I’d consider meeting you and seeing what happens.
I guess the only thing I don’t see is what you are doing with your life, what do you do for a living, etc?
How old is your son?
Out of curiosity, what did you see that made you want to message me?
I’ll talk to you later,
Let’s be honest here – if her original message was from a guy and sent to me, I either wouldn’t have responded, or would have been a smart ass and responded something like, “Okay, I read it.” But – I think Jon was nice to respond, and has learned from the best how to keep a girl engaged. ;-)
“My profile states what Im doing with my life ? What are you doing with urs? Yours has as much of a description as mine does. ”the kid” is a beautiful blessing and your message comes across as rude”
Wait.. what? Rude?! I get where she probably flew off the handle because he said that someone with a kid is probably a deal breaker for him, but that doesn’t make the message rude. Her message comes across as an immature teenager.. you know, one of those that clearly knows how to spell, but spells words wrong for shits and giggles.
Additionally, I would like to add that I visited her profile. I find interesting that on her six things she can’t live without, she includes “Jesus, water, heat, friends, shelter and HER DOG.” What about the “blessing”?
Friends – This is especially why I hate text messaging.. you can’t depict someone’s tone through text. (Including my blog, here!) Therefore, you should give the person the benefit of the doubt… and DON’T READ INTO IT. Of course, sometimes I need to take my own advice.. but – seriously.. Was his message rude?