This has been weighing (no pun intended) on my mind the past few days.. so I figured I best get it out there. This one, in particular, is for my female readers.
I had #31 and his roommate over the other day for some grilling and a bonfire. When I asked him if he was going to be bringing the meat, he replied with “a big slab, naturally.” Overall, good times were had.
But – while grilling, #31 said to me, “This is kind of awkward, and I never know how to bring this stuff up..” I raised my eyebrow, and he continued, “You’ve lost some weight.” Indeed, I have been shedding a few pounds by watching what I eat, and working out.. so I responded a “Heck yeah!” and we high-fived.. and I then proceed to ask why that was awkward to bring up.
Both #31 and his roommate said that girls get offended when they have mentioned weight loss before. I understood what they meant right away by playfully saying “OMG, are you trying to say I used to be FAT?!” .. because I KNOW that’s what girls say.
Ladies – What is wrong with you (us)? If a guy has noticed you have lost weight, say THANK YOU.. It’s a compliment. I am going to speak on behalf of the guys (and Guys: If I am wrong, feel free to comment..) and tell you that this means you look good, and your hard work is paying off (if you are attempting to lose weight). It does not mean “Wow, I used to think you looked like a cow.”
I understand that if you haven’t been trying to lose weight, or haven’t lost weight, and someone tells you this that it kind of throws you for a loop. Can we not read into it, though, and give people the benefit of the doubt? People are going to stop complimenting if they get attacked when they do so.. so take a deep breath, eat some chocolate and drink some wine.
Oooh… chocolate and wine… Gotta go!