Although I believe most of my readers to probably be online daters who can easily relate to what I post – I realize that some of you may not. I got this sent in from one of my fellow online daters.. and felt it necessary to prove that it’s not just me who gets the crazy folk..
Him: I won’t lie, the first thing that popped in my head when i saw your profile, was the lyrics to the opening theme of True Blood the tv show. … I wanna do bad things to you….
Me: Uhhhh ok.
Him: Too forward?
Me: Yep.
Him: Sorry, it’s been a while since I’ve asked people out and lately sex has been heavily on my mind
Me: They have porn for that.
Him: Sorry for bugging you. Just not my night I guess.
This actually does frustrate me, and J and I had a conversation about this very topic today. How do you trust someone you meet online? If you take all the crazy messages, and come across someone normal- how do you know that they will actually respect you? Especially as a female, although I am a confident individual, how do I know that if I say “No, we aren’t doing that.” that the message will come across clear? Guys like the above and those blatantly disrespectful make it difficult for the guys who aren’t like that.
I read another blog post today about people in our generation don’t actually date anymore. I found that to be pretty true. Guys don’t have to try to woo us, they cut right to the chase. I, like that blogger, don’t like that at all.
Ugh. Here Kitty kitty!
Soon2BeCatLady 
I go with my gut and a little bit of logic, to be honest. If sex is the first thing they talk about, chances are I’m not the first person who they’ve approached. If someone went along with this tactic, chances are they’re not discriminating about their partners … start doing the math … and I really don’t want a disease, you know?
Basically, I go with this rule: I trust someone until they give me a reason not to. Get the conversation going, take the time to listen, and people sort themselves out pretty quickly.
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I assume that men will be thinking about sex, and they should know I know… this is all a given, so no one needs to be crude at the start. Any man with half a brain understands this. The kind of guy I like knows how to be romantic/sexy without being an ass. I don’t think these crude men are crazy, just stupid. The crazy ones are smarter, unfortunately.
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I am in complete agreement with that Paula commented. I honestly was thinking the same thing and couldn’t have said it better myself.
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