For those of you who are blessed enough to not have to try to find love online – All of the dating websites have you list your body type. Generally, the options are very similar. Thin, Athletic, Average or Curvy. And I hate this question.
I hate this question because for some reason, in the online world, curvy is the option to nicely say that you are overweight. I don’t get it. I know plenty of thin women that I would describe as curvy. I didn’t think having curves was considered a bad thing. (I will say I did laugh when I saw a boy listed himself as curvy.)
POF also has an ad on their site that says “Are you Curvy? Find men who are looking for you!” and shows a photo of a woman who, yes – has curves, but is definitely overweight.
Is our society not fucked up enough with women and their body types? Who decided this nonsense?
When digging around a little bit for this post.. I noticed that OKCupid has added in some more options since I lasted listed myself as “Average.”
So now… *drumroll please*
Soon2BeCatLady – Body Type: Used Up.
Soon2BeCatLady 
I’ve been using “Used Up” since day one… Still not sure what it actually means!?
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I just think it’s funny… and someone can determine my body type on their own through my photos.
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I listed curvy for myself. I’m definitely not overweight, but I’ve never had a flat stomach (even when my Crohn’s left me vastly underweight), I have “childbearing” hips, and big boobs. So… curvy. I agree, though. The guy can decide based on my pictures!
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I picture a meth-addicted painfully skinny person.
By the way, as someone who is very thin (with the exception of a short period of time when I was a tad “curvy” myself) I also struggle with that. I am NOT athletic. I am not muscle-y, I don’t work out (unless you count walking up the 8 steps to my apartment) and I was blessed with the grace of a newborn deer. I don’t get why they ask for a label-as you said, there are pictures there for a reason, right???
And the poor guys-they get to a certain age, and almost all of them have a bit of “curvy” around the waist, but they certainly aren’t fat, and they aren’t athletic or thin-what the heck are they supposed to say?
Seriously, web sites, just eliminate the question. That’s why they invented the photo.
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On my dating site they have slim, average, muscular, fit, a little extra weight, and larger. Not exactly a flattering selection, and I would like to call myself curvy, and I am smallish but with curvy hips. I agree that photos are the best way to tell.
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The problem I run into is that what I am is (apparently) open to interpretation. I’m 5’6″, weigh 185lbs and am a size 14-15, depending on the brand. Some people (myself included) say I’m curvaceous and sexy. Some call it voluptuous. Some call it overweight, and a couple guys have told me I should self-identify as FAT because that’s what I am. It’s true that I’m quite bigger than some women. It’s true that for some things, I have to shop in the plus size section. But I’ve got no cellulite! No rolls! I don’t have a double chin! I’ve got one hell of an hourglass figure! HOW IS THIS FAT, EXACTLY?
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