Body Type

25 May

For those of you who are blessed enough to not have to try to find love online – All of the dating websites have you list your body type.   Generally, the options are very similar.   Thin,  Athletic, Average or Curvy.   And I hate this question.

I hate this question because for some reason, in the online world,  curvy is the option to nicely say that you are overweight.   I don’t get it.    I know plenty of thin women that I would describe as curvy.   I didn’t think having curves was considered a bad thing.  (I will say I did laugh when I saw a boy listed himself as  curvy.)

POF also has an ad on their site that says “Are you Curvy? Find men who are looking for you!”  and shows a photo of a woman who, yes – has curves,  but is definitely overweight.

Is our society not fucked up enough with women and their body types?   Who decided this nonsense?

When digging around a little bit for this post.. I noticed that OKCupid has added in some more options since I lasted listed myself as “Average.”

So now…  *drumroll please*

Soon2BeCatLady –  Body Type:   Used Up.

6 Responses to “Body Type”

  1. nicofdarcyshire May 25, 2012 at 1:03 am #

    I’ve been using “Used Up” since day one… Still not sure what it actually means!?


    • Soon2BeCatLady May 25, 2012 at 1:35 am #

      I just think it’s funny… and someone can determine my body type on their own through my photos.


  2. B.V. May 25, 2012 at 2:35 am #

    I listed curvy for myself. I’m definitely not overweight, but I’ve never had a flat stomach (even when my Crohn’s left me vastly underweight), I have “childbearing” hips, and big boobs. So… curvy. I agree, though. The guy can decide based on my pictures!


  3. Velvet May 25, 2012 at 2:38 am #

    I picture a meth-addicted painfully skinny person.

    By the way, as someone who is very thin (with the exception of a short period of time when I was a tad “curvy” myself) I also struggle with that. I am NOT athletic. I am not muscle-y, I don’t work out (unless you count walking up the 8 steps to my apartment) and I was blessed with the grace of a newborn deer. I don’t get why they ask for a label-as you said, there are pictures there for a reason, right???

    And the poor guys-they get to a certain age, and almost all of them have a bit of “curvy” around the waist, but they certainly aren’t fat, and they aren’t athletic or thin-what the heck are they supposed to say?

    Seriously, web sites, just eliminate the question. That’s why they invented the photo.


    • bridgetclare May 25, 2012 at 5:59 am #

      On my dating site they have slim, average, muscular, fit, a little extra weight, and larger. Not exactly a flattering selection, and I would like to call myself curvy, and I am smallish but with curvy hips. I agree that photos are the best way to tell.


  4. smudgeboxinthebigsmoke May 25, 2012 at 1:21 pm #

    The problem I run into is that what I am is (apparently) open to interpretation. I’m 5’6″, weigh 185lbs and am a size 14-15, depending on the brand. Some people (myself included) say I’m curvaceous and sexy. Some call it voluptuous. Some call it overweight, and a couple guys have told me I should self-identify as FAT because that’s what I am. It’s true that I’m quite bigger than some women. It’s true that for some things, I have to shop in the plus size section. But I’ve got no cellulite! No rolls! I don’t have a double chin! I’ve got one hell of an hourglass figure! HOW IS THIS FAT, EXACTLY?


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