I sent an OKCupid IM the other day to someone who I thought was cute. I consider first IM’s be a bit more casual than your first online dating message, because it’s a “real-time” conversation. So, for the record: I did just say “Hello!” I didn’t get a response, so I left it at that.
Until the next day, I received a message which made it clear this guy hadn’t seen my original IM when I had sent it.
“First I must question why you are messaging me? ARE YOU A SPAMMER? DO YOU WANT MONEY? DO YOU NEED TO BE SAVED FROM A TERRIBLE SITUATION?
If you are ANY of these, please delete this conversation now and I will forgive you. If you choose to persusue me with ANY of the above mentioned LIES, I will report you, hound you, and creep into your dreams in the middle of the night and drive you mad.
Have a nice day.”
I totally understand that there are bots and such out there.. but there are real people online too, and jumping to conclusions isn’t going to help any. I decided not to respond, because I believe I fall under the “Need to be saved from a terrible situation” category, in which I don’t want to become a literal crazy cat lady.
Oh well, on to the next.
I don’t suppose this guy will be getting much mail, then. I had a sort of similar reaction when I accidentally ‘liked’ someone I’d had a short affair-gone-wrong with ages ago. Talk about deleted expletives!
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