You’re Doing It Wrong!!

3 Oct

Some of you may remember that earlier this year I had frequently made mention to the “Intern” I had.  She wasn’t actually an intern, but for lack of anything better to call her, that’s the name that stuck.

She, of course, has since moved on to bigger and better things than doing my grunt work – but was excited to talk to me about a boy she met online dating.  Much to my surprise, a day or so later – she told me that she was really nervous about meeting him and was going to cancel.

I told her that cancelling was not allowed, and “Just go have a drink.”   She then explained that he had set their first meetup to be at CHIPOTLE.   Really, dude?  Chipotle!?

I am absolutely not a fan of the first meetup including dinner of any sort, and believe you should stick to a drink – and appetizers IF it’s going well..  but – Gentlemen of the Interwebs:   Any sort of fast food chain is NOT acceptable for a first online dating meetup.   While I would consider Chipotle to be classier than White Castle,  I think “The Intern” said it best when she said “Nobody looks attractive eating a burrito.”

I would have cancelled, too.   Good call, Intern.


13 Responses to “You’re Doing It Wrong!!”

  1. runesandrhinestones October 3, 2013 at 7:30 am #

    That’s why I never get why dinner is a first date! There’s the stress of what to order, who’s paying the bill, how to eat without scarfing it all in ten seconds… A pint in the pub would always be my call 😀


  2. beautifulmess7 October 3, 2013 at 10:36 am #

    I like dinner as a first date. Maybe I’m just too traditional… But Chipotle? No.


    • Soon2BeCatLady October 3, 2013 at 12:18 pm #

      I dislike it because if you don’t jive with the person, you’re stuck eating a full meal with them.


      • beautifulmess7 October 3, 2013 at 12:23 pm #

        It doesn’t take that long to eat a meal. I think if they were worth talking to, getting dressed up for, and driving to meet then I can give them an hour to see if we click or not. Some people are really nervous and need time to relax. Plus, I’d rather not go to a bar or do much drinking with a stranger. Restaurants seem safer.


      • Soon2BeCatLady October 3, 2013 at 12:29 pm #

        You clearly never had a first online dinner date go badly then. (Spoiler: Most awkward/uncomfortable hour ever.) I just can’t do it anymore.


      • beautifulmess7 October 3, 2013 at 12:38 pm #

        I have had two or three that weren’t successful, and one that was pretty awkward. No one who has made me feel like I just HAD to get away, though.


      • Soon2BeCatLady October 3, 2013 at 1:00 pm #

        I like having the out if needed


      • beautifulmess7 October 3, 2013 at 1:01 pm #

        How is there more of an out with drinks? Just wondering. You have one then jet?


      • Soon2BeCatLady October 3, 2013 at 1:02 pm #



      • beautifulmess7 October 3, 2013 at 1:04 pm #

        Doesn’t that get awkward? What excuse do you use?


      • Soon2BeCatLady October 3, 2013 at 1:09 pm #

        I haven’t had this happen in a drink situation yet.. But in the dinner situation, I could tell right away that the guy didn’t want to be there either. In an event of a mutual unattraction, it wouldn’t matter what was said.


      • beautifulmess7 October 3, 2013 at 1:21 pm #

        Then why didn’t you just agree to leave dinner? Or just have an appetizer and go?


  3. Ricardo October 3, 2013 at 5:19 pm #

    Unless you’re under 20, fastfood is a no-go. Even then it’s one of the least romantic things to do.

    Though speaking of dinner dates, I’ve had one that was pretty different. We had agreed to go out for drinks to get a good first impression. Then, if she felt comfortable with it, I would make her dinner.

    While it wasn’t awkward, I can see how you wouldn’t want to enter someone’s home on a first date. We only did it because of the distance.


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