Everyone online dating gets form letters all the time, which are what I call messages that could easily have been copied and pasted and sent to anyone. Normally I shrug them off (and don’t respond to them..) but today this message just pissed me off:
How are you doing? Look I would write more, but as I have found out on this site, you could write someone a message, and they won’t bother to read it. That is besides the fake profiles, and the pickyness of some people. I like your profile, like what you mentioned, and think you are really pretty, so I figured I’d break the ice. If you’re interested that would be nice, if not, I wish you luck in your search.”
You know what a girl reads when she gets a message like this???? Here, let me tell you:
“I’ve been doing this online dating thing for awhile now, and when I take time and effort, girls don’t respond. I have now crafted this beast which I can send to anyone who passes my attractiveness test. Guess what!? You’re a winner! Now, you go do all the work and read through my profile. If you like what you read, respond back.. I will then look at your profile and probably find some big deal-breaker in there, and then not respond… Or, I’m only looking for sex.. Once again, You’ve Won!!”
Seriously guys, it would take less time to skim the profile and send a message that merely asks “I saw you like to knit. How long does it take you to make a scarf?” or ANYTHING! (If it’s on her profile, it’s game.. with the exception of anything sexual – which shouldn’t be on there in the first place. See It’sNotAMatch.com‘s most recent post.)
Once again, I will have you jump forward with me in the time machine for a moment- You’re in love, you’re married, what have you: Someone asks her how you two met. She responds “He copied and pasted a message to me that he sent to several other girls.” If that sounds like a romantic story to you, then by all means: Proceed. If not.. you may want to rethink the form letter.
I leave you with this: ”If you don’t change direction, you may wind up where you are heading.”