Several guys have brought this up to me, so I feel it needs to be addressed. I also once saw it referenced on an episode of The Big Bang Theory – so I know it’s a “thing.” Girls aren’t all that innocent in the online dating thing either.
Girls – if you plan on actually meeting people off the internet, and not just using online dating as a self-esteem boost.. represent yourself accurately. Guys are visual.. they are going to notice if your pictures are outdated, or if you’ve gained weight since then. After talking to a few about this – it’s pretty much a deal breaker for most of them. They feel they’ve been lied to.
When this notion was first presented to me, I tried to think of why this was being done. Because I tend to give the benefit of the doubt whenever possible (with the exception of strangers on the internet..), I gave the following theory: You know how girls with eating disorders are stick thin – and they look in the mirror and just see fat? Some girls, who aren’t stick thin, look in the mirror and see stick thin. So – in some girls’ defense, I argue that case. But.. at the same time.. come on..
Ladies – let’s be fair with these guys. Post pictures that accurately show who you are… not who you were. If someone’s not going to talk to you for it – he wasn’t worth your time anyways. And if you fall into my defense category – have a good friend help you pick out your pictures. Besides, you know you’d be pissed if a guy did that.
Thanks for addressing this one!!
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