Being Brutally Honest

While I am a firm believer that honesty is the best policy – sometimes it needs to be toned down a little bit.

Guys tend to be logical people, basing decisions on the facts..

Girls tend to be emotional people,  weighing decisions based on how they feel, or how they will feel.

Guys:  If you can come to terms with this, and use it in your interactions with the opposite gender,  I can almost promise you that you will be GOLDEN.

I chatted online with someone for a while.  Very nice, but based on everything I read about him, and saw of him – I didn’t see it really being a good fit.   I am all for making new friends though, so I would not have originally been opposed to meeting him.

I want to preface this with I don’t believe myself to be as emotional based as most.  But, I am female,  and that side of me still is present.   I can be factual too, and I am sure hormone levels play a part as well.

So, I talked to this guy on and off for at least a month, if not longer.   Again, since I didn’t really find him attractive,  it didn’t bug me that we really only talked back and forth.   But, one day, out of curiosity – I asked essentially why he talked to me if it was apparent he didn’t seem interested in pursuing me.   He told me that he is shallow (his words..) and that I don’t appear to be his ideal body type – but I am too interesting not to talk to.

That did not bother me.  Not in the slightest.   I responded back something along the lines of, “So you think I’m fat?”    His answer was no, but again just that he’s shallow and I am not his body type… and then asked if I have lost weight since I have been working out.  I told him that I feel my pictures accurately represent who I am.  He then said he wouldn’t be opposed to meeting up, because he’d have to see me in person to better determine if he was attracted to me.

Okay –  I get that.  Like I’ve said before,  some people are not photogenic –  I am okay with meeting someone to determine level of attractiveness.   But –  you don’t TELL a girl that you are shallow and don’t know if her body is good enough for you.   You can THINK that all you want –  but never tell a girl that.  Will I ever meet this guy (even with the possibility we could be friends)?   NO.  I am not going to put myself in a situation where the only thing I will be feeling is self-conscious.

After that urked me..  I did what any “sensible, non-emotional” girl would do-  and made a reference to him being too short for me anyway and logged off.   Was it mean?  Absolutely.. but that’s what my emotions led me to do.