Sympathy Card

5 May

I don’t care how new you are to online dating,  I don’t think it’s necessary to play it up.   It’s not like being new excuses poor behavior, and it’s not like you are trainable.  It’s a moot point.

Of course, this is only my advice, and you could take or leave it.   But – here is a prime example:

April 4, 2012

“Hi, beautiful. I tried sending you a chat message but it didn’t work. I’m pretty new to this. I like your profile. How are you tonight?”

I didn’t respond to this because of lack of time, and as you all know I think the “How are you?” message is stupid.

Here’s where I prove that you may want to listen to my advice..   One month later on Star Wars Day:

“Hi. I tried sending you a chat message but it didn’t work. I’m pretty new to this. I like your profile! How are you this evening?”

Yeah- so POF neglects to tell you “You’ve tried this message on this chicky before.”   Really,  after a month of online dating,  you can’t be classified as “new to this” anymore.   Even though he probably wasn’t new to it a month ago either.

So – the odd “Sympathy Card” some of you play to guilt us into messaging you back..   Don’t.   Do a little research and message a girl a question about one of her listed hobbies.   For real.

3 Responses to “Sympathy Card”

  1. Paula May 5, 2012 at 3:02 am #

    I have about a month left on Match and then I’m done with all this. There must be a better way to meet men than these dating sites! These guys are all so horrible.


  2. sosassyandsingle May 5, 2012 at 11:10 pm #

    I agree with all of your posts…and so do the other women. How can we make these men read them????


    • Soon2BeCatLady May 6, 2012 at 3:13 am #

      I do know that I have at least a good male following.. but sadly the males the read it are not necessarily the ones who need to. (With the exception of a few..)
      Aside from not wanting to leak my identity, I have thought about responding to the messages I blog about with the link to the post.. but I don’t want hate mail either… may be an experiment one day.


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