I don’t care how new you are to online dating, I don’t think it’s necessary to play it up. It’s not like being new excuses poor behavior, and it’s not like you are trainable. It’s a moot point.
Of course, this is only my advice, and you could take or leave it. But – here is a prime example:
April 4, 2012
“Hi, beautiful. I tried sending you a chat message but it didn’t work. I’m pretty new to this. I like your profile. How are you tonight?”
I didn’t respond to this because of lack of time, and as you all know I think the “How are you?” message is stupid.
Here’s where I prove that you may want to listen to my advice.. One month later on Star Wars Day:
“Hi. I tried sending you a chat message but it didn’t work. I’m pretty new to this. I like your profile! How are you this evening?”
Yeah- so POF neglects to tell you “You’ve tried this message on this chicky before.” Really, after a month of online dating, you can’t be classified as “new to this” anymore. Even though he probably wasn’t new to it a month ago either.
So – the odd “Sympathy Card” some of you play to guilt us into messaging you back.. Don’t. Do a little research and message a girl a question about one of her listed hobbies. For real.
Soon2BeCatLady 
I have about a month left on Match and then I’m done with all this. There must be a better way to meet men than these dating sites! These guys are all so horrible.
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I agree with all of your posts…and so do the other women. How can we make these men read them????
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I do know that I have at least a good male following.. but sadly the males the read it are not necessarily the ones who need to. (With the exception of a few..)
Aside from not wanting to leak my identity, I have thought about responding to the messages I blog about with the link to the post.. but I don’t want hate mail either… may be an experiment one day.
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