Not Scary at All

10 Sep

“I don’t know who you are. I don’t know what you want. If you are looking for love, I can tell you I don’t have any interest. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you setup a date and have sex with me, that’ll be the end of it. I will not look for you, I will not pursue you. But if you don’t, I will look for you, I will find you, and I will kill you.”

I can only hope that this guy really just has some sick twisted humor and he isn’t serious..  but, this sort of stuff is not cool.   No girl should need to feel threatened on the internet.

Safety is a big deal when it comes to the internet, folks.   Sure, I meet a lot of people from OKCupid, and have met two of POF..  but, I make sure I have safety measures in place.   1)  Google Voice.  No one is getting my real number until I am secure in them not being a wack-job.   GV gives me full control.   2)  Making sure a friend knows where I am, and does a check in – either by phone, or showing up at the place.   And if for some reason a friend is not available,  3) Carry a gun.  No one needs to know how bad-ass you are,  unless there is a need for you to be bad-ass.

(For the record – I am understanding this dude’s message to be a movie quote.. Nevertheless – inappropriate.)

5 Responses to “Not Scary at All”

  1. johnnyslick September 10, 2012 at 1:35 am #

    Yeah, speaking as a big fat lib (formerly) in the land of big fat libs, the issue there is that a lot of guys simply *don’t* realize how scary this stuff can be to women. We don’t have it in the back of our minds that on any given street or what have you there is a stranger who could overpower me if he felt like it and so a lot of us just don’t think about it… and to make matters worse, if a lot of us get confronted on the issue we just get defensive instead of trying to understand what the person on the other end is experiencing.

    So I guess the moral to the story is that a lot of that kind of misogyny is based more on complete and total ignorance, not malice. Not that that excuses it. And not that I’m even saying you ought to dismiss the malice angle. At least he didn’t quote Fight Club to you!


  2. kellig September 10, 2012 at 7:09 pm #

    Report it to the admin. there are rules in all these sites. You do not utter the phrase ” I will kill you” in any context, I don’t care what ur frikkin issues are. It isn’t urcresponsibility to judge whether this bozo is harmless. A lot of people thought the Aurora shooter was harmless, a weird guy sure, but harmless. Report it.


    • sofreespirit80 September 10, 2012 at 8:53 pm #

      I am glad that I have actually seen the movie that the quote came from (Taken) and I recognized it. Otherwise I would have instantly been scared, scanned the profile to see if I knew the person in any way, then also scanned my own to make sure there was no identifying information in it that would allow the person to find my easily. Next have reported the message to the site admin.

      I agree with kellig, there is no reason why any person (especially on a dating site) should mention anything about personal harm.

      Actions might speck louder than words but they also say the pen is greater than the sword. (Pen = keyboard,) Someone inciting fear is me is Not what I signed for.


    • Soon2BeCatLady September 10, 2012 at 8:55 pm #

      I would hope by now you would think I have some competance and have taken appropriate action.


  3. butimbeautiful September 15, 2012 at 10:54 pm #

    I think I’ve seen that guy on POF! So now I know what he was talking about!


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