Why Girls Don’t Make the First Move

19 Sep

Before reading, you must be sure you are familiar with Super Hot POF Guy.

Despite what I had thought originally,  Super Hot POF Guy’s insanely attractive good looks did not bring out the extra awkward in me.   The first time we met for drinks, I was slightly guarded, since meeting people off the internet is scary sometimes.  But, the 2nd time (a month later) was fine –  I got to look at his gorgeous face, and we conversed very easily about a wide variety of topics. (Which oddly enough, included silk bed sheets…  so I feel like there was flirtation involved.)  But-  nothing happened..

So, another month later, when I was invited to a baseball game with two other couples.. I decided I really had nothing to lose by asking Super Hot POF Guy to accompany me.   The phone call itself was nerve-wracking,  and I spoke fast and I know I also said, “This doesn’t have to be a date.”   (Guys:  If a girl seems awkward asking.. even if she says it’s not a date:  It’s a date.)  Super Hot POF Guy agreed to go.  Yes!  Now at very least, I had a good reason to get my picture taken with him!   (I also want to throw out there that there wasn’t silence in between meeting him and calling him..  just so I don’t look like a huge freak.)

Remember a long time ago when I told you that girls plan out everything?  True to form, I came up with a brilliant plan.

We got to the game, found our group, took our photo and settled in.  “Oh,  just a warning, Super Hot POF Guy..  if that kiss cam points in our direction, I WILL be attacking your face.”   I figured saying something as such would a) give me permission to attack his face if the kiss cam made an appearance, or at very least b) give him an open invitation.    What I had failed to consider was this response:  “My girlfriend might have a problem with that.”  

Well, geez.. THAT wasn’t uncomfortable AT ALL.

You will be pleased to know that the kiss cam, luckily, did not point in our direction.   But the rest of the game certainly got a little awkward, as well as the walk back to the car, and the ride home.

…And that’s why it will be awhile before I will grow another set of balls and make the first move again.


***After a few Twitter comments, I feel the need to clarify:  I don’t think Super Hot POF Guy is a douche-bag.  I think it’s commendable that he put a stop to anything happening…  AND – I did tell him it wasn’t a date…  I think it’s just more hilarious that I always tend to get myself in awkward situations.

8 Responses to “Why Girls Don’t Make the First Move”

  1. Manda September 19, 2012 at 12:43 am #

    Haha, not the response I was expecting. Why did he join you if he already had a girlfriend? Yeah, you said it wasn’t necessarily a date, but still….


  2. kellig September 19, 2012 at 6:04 am #

    kind of a douche move on his part to not let you know he was involved. whether it was a date or not, you did initially meet on a dating website.
    unless his response was “kidding” just like your statement that you “would” kiss him. actually, after typing that, it isn’t the same at all is it? douche move on his part.


  3. dramafreepaul September 19, 2012 at 3:25 pm #

    I’m glad you enjoyed your arm candy, for a little. But it seems mildly disrespectful that he went with you even though you said it can be “not a date.” He had to know on some level that you liked him and since he had a GF, why would he do that? Super Hot POF Guy sounds like a JO!


  4. dramafreepaul September 19, 2012 at 3:30 pm #

    Just clarified my own thought for myself. Thought I would share. It’s disrespectful since he had an inclination that you liked him and he didn’t tell you before you went that he had a GF. At which point you would have said, ___________(answer there;)


    • Soon2BeCatLady September 20, 2012 at 12:08 am #

      “That’s okay, come to the game anyway, I need a photo with you because you are so freaking attractive.”


  5. Mia September 28, 2012 at 1:30 am #

    Ok, the guy told you straight up that he had a girlfriend.. But WHY was he on POF?? And why did he go out on dates with you and lead you on? As far as I know POF is not a friend-finder tool!


    • Soon2BeCatLady September 28, 2012 at 1:38 am #

      He was on POF when I met him months ago.. his account had since been removed..



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