An old friend of mine joined the ranks of OKCupid recently, and sent me a message on there. Normally, it weirds me out when people I know message me on an online dating site, but not him. I think this is because I don’t believe he has a judgmental bone in his body. He is very easy to be around, and to talk to. I have always been comfortable around him.
Moving right along, tonight I got another message from him:
“UGH
I understand we all have hypocrisies about us, but I’ve seen multiple profiles that list 50 Shades of Grey immediately after the Bible as their favorite books.
What am I supposed to make of that?”
Now that right there fascinates me. I’ve said it again and again, I don’t go looking at chicky’s profiles.. because girls are not what I’m after. But, really? — And I’m not trying to say that ’50 Shades of Grey’ is bad, or anything.. I’ve never read it, personally. (I understand what it’s about..) Those just seem at very extreme opposite ends of the spectrum to publicly list both as your favorite.
What is anyone supposed to make of that? Is that their way of saying, “I’m a good girl during the day, but a freak under the sheets at night?”
Do any of you consider both of these books your favorite? Does anyone have any thoughts on this? My mind is blown.
Soon2BeCatLady 
I think you hit the nail on the head with your “I’m a good girl during the day, but a freak under the sheets at night?” comment. It’s not just clever, not one little bit.
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My personal take is that that particular book is the first “titilating” book that these women have read. and it made their lady parts tingle. whether you are into that particular fetish or not, the writing is striking some subconscious chords, and makes these ladies feel sexual in a positive way. Maybe it is opening up their minds a little bit. anyway. then they list the bible because there is that knee jerk reaction to not being perceived a s slutty. maybe they do like the bible. I think it is an attempt to show that they still have some core “christian values” but wouldn’t mind exploring some Christian values. LOL!!! (that happened totally organically. Christian Grey being the male character in the book.)
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I think your friend is being a little judge-y. In my profile I use the same spectrum of interests to convey the range of my personality. “I like camping and hiking, and wandering museums and getting lost in the middle of the city” “I listen to NIN and Les Miserables”. It isn’t hippocritical…it is a way of showing depth and range of personality. I don’t dig the bible, but I like Harry Potter and enjoyed 50 Shades too. I guess I am a kinky nerd. 😉
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IDK Vel… People I know who legitimately consider the Bible as their favorite book would never publicly admit to even reading 50 Shades of Grey.
LOL.. and you said “hippo”critical.
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Or they just read so little books that if they read the Bible at least once a week, it’s almost like being a favorite book. These women who have both the Bible and 50 Shades of Grey listed are probably not avid readers.
Some religious/spiritual books are genuinely among my favorites (Blue Like Jazz comes to mind), but I think of the Bible as a moral textbook, not engaging literature.
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Even smart people have their spelling kryptonite. Hehehe…
People who list the bible as their favorite book can often be kinky fuckers. Do you not watch the news? (yeah, I went there.)
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I find it interesting that Velvet thinks NIN and Les Miserables is, apparently, opposites. Juxtaposed to each other in the way that they are both composed to be as big as possible or convey emotion. Also, if you list hiking and getting lost as two things you like to do, wouldn’t that convey that you aren’t too good at hiking? That would lead me to believe that either you are full of BS or your hobbies are things I wouldn’t do with you because you suck at them. I am not saying she does, but that is what she conveys there. Lastly, let’s kill this now… HArry Potter isn’t nerdy. It is dorky. Possibly, very cheesy.
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