Flirting Techniques

17 Aug

On the last podcast,  we had a “flirting expert” on to discuss different ways to flirt.  And, I’ll be honest…  I define “flirting expert” as someone I may know in real life who is a huge flirt –  and he had some pretty cheesy pick-up lines to share.

He did also share that eye contact is good, not over-drinking, batting eyelashes and getting dolled up (i.e nails done, etc.)  are good tricks for girls to show that you are interested.

Honestly, I feel like I have those things down pat.. but perhaps just too much in my every-day life.  (I do consider myself a big flirt, in general.)   I thought I would bring it to discussion on the blog.    I’d like to know in the comments or via the Twitter –  What does someone of the opposite gender do that indicates to you that they like you, or are interested?  (I’m talking IN person.. not online.)

Additionally..  because the “flirting expert” mentioned to me that I should get my nails done, I have a poll question for my gentlemen readers:

But again –   let’s talk through this.   What can a person do to indicate that they are interested?   Can’t wait to see what you all think!!

7 Responses to “Flirting Techniques”

  1. s4m4nth4x August 17, 2013 at 3:03 am #

    As a girl, I can’t tell you if guys find painted nails attractive. HOWEVER – Having well manicured nails makes me feel like a million bucks, and guys DO notice confidence. Some girls feel totally uncomfortable in makeup, and guys ALSO notice when their date is completely and totally awkward and out of her element.

    I’ve always said that a girl should just wear her favorite outfit on her first date. Wear something that you ALREADY KNOW you feel good in, you already know it fits, you already know you like it. (The last time I wore a new bra, it started itching an hour into the work day! You don’t want that on a date!!) If you usually wear makeup, wear makeup. If you usually wear nail polish, wear nail polish.

    Present your BEST self, but make sure you’re presenting yourself and not someone else.


  2. mysocalledadventuresinonlinedating August 17, 2013 at 3:20 am #

    Touch them! Find some way to get your hands on them (doesn’t have to be in a sexual way).

    Also, on the nail situation, I did my nails for my last date and the guy noticed and complimented me!


    • s4m4nth4x August 17, 2013 at 3:45 am #

      Yes! Touch them! I tweeted that during the podcast and it seemed to go unnoticed. My favorite is the “oh, you’re so funny” – put your hand on their arm while you’re laughing.


      • LDN August 17, 2013 at 4:45 am #


        Yes, touch me (not like that). Anything from a playful punch in the shoulder after I gently mock you for something embarrassing you’ve told me to letting knees rest together under the table to a hand on the forearm when you tell me you’re just nipping to the bathroom. All massive indicators.

        We do it too. Usually resting shoulders together as we share a look at the cocktail menu or a hand in the small of your back as we guide you out of somebody’s way.

        Some boys, myself included, are dumb, ladies; invade our personal space.


  3. qwer4321kbye August 17, 2013 at 4:44 am #

    Say it. Nothing makes my heart race more than when a girl i find attractive tells me. I’ve had to many friends you touch and compliment. I get mixed signals all the time that way and unless she comes out and says it, i’m usually gonna assume that isnt the case.

    As for nails, as long as they are clean and groomed, I think a lot of guys dont notice. Chipped polish, biting, dirt. All these things get noticed negatively. I personally cannot stand yellow or any color similar. I immediately think of infection.


    • LDN August 17, 2013 at 5:45 am #

      Oh yeah… Tell us too.

      It doesn’t have to be “I want your babies” or “you are now my boyfriend”, just “you’re fun” or “we should do this again”. If he’s interested, he’ll reciprocate and you’ll swap numbers.


  4. Chin Up, Chest High! August 17, 2013 at 9:11 am #

    Hmmm… for me flirting is increasing physical contact. If a girl gently touches my arm or leans in to me when we are talking, sharing a joke etc that’s flirting. It’s “permission” to get physical (I don’t even mean a kiss here, it’s simply “I won’t pull away if you put your arm around me or touch my hand).

    I’ve had girls try to play-fight as well (I like that), for example, giving me a VERY gentle slap on the arm when I mock her playfully (that’s another way we met flirt – if we make fun of you it means we like you and are equally giving you “permission” to make fun of us too). For us, it is far less about what you wear (nails, clothes etc) as what you do.

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently and considering writing a post on flirting rituals. My typical fliriting tends to be leaning into her when we’re looking at the menu or a map, gently touch her arm when she thinks she’s saying something stupid but I’m agreeing/empathising. A gentle touch of the hand, a quick arm across the back it all feels like flirting and gauging each other’s physical boundaries.

    Anyway, hope I didn’t ramble too much!


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