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Online Dating “Match Percentages”

27 Apr

I’ll be honest:  I used to think OKCupid’s match percentage “suggestions” were a bunch of crap.   But, that was when I was young and stupid. (…a few months ago…)

Don’t get me wrong  –  I still don’t fully rely on them.  (Old school dating didn’t ever provide you with likelihood of succeeding numbers..)   But, the more and more I meet people from online, the more I see that the match percentages are pretty fair.   Take #31 for example:  Our match percentage is 94% Match,  78% Friend, and 2% Enemy..  and we get along splendidly.    I think the important part of looking at the match percentages is that you take EVERY one of them into consideration.

I don’t work for OKCupid, and I haven’t read OKCupid’s blog about how they figure out the match percentages..  but, from what I understand it’s based on the questions you answer.   I perceive it like this:   The “Match” percentage seems to be how we’d be in a relationship.  Obviously 80% or higher is probably something you should aim for.    Friendship match and Enemy match numbers are pretty obvious.

No one is every going to have a 100% perfect all around relationship – that is unrealistic.  What I have noticed, though, is that even if I have a higher match percentage with someone,  the friend percentage is more of a tell all for me.  That number cannot be low.    I want to marry my best friend.  (No, J or Velvet.. not you guys..)    I have found that when I talk or meet with people who have a lower friend percentage than what I’d like:   We don’t click.

I have yet to meet with someone who has a higher than normal enemy percentage.   It is in the works for me to do so at some point in the near future, kind of..   I haven’t yet decided at what point an enemy percentage is too high.

..I may just seek out a super high enemy match and suggest a meet up…  (Gun in purse… of course.)

What do you guys think? — Any stories?

 

Disturbing..

25 Apr

So – apparently this is not an original, but goes around from time to time..    It’s absolutely disgusting, and the part that probably bothers me most is that someone actually at one point created this.

“I would strangle a moose with a 3 foot long piece of dental floss, gut it with my teeth and use the hide as a coat, then climb Mt. Everest barefoot while listening to Justin Bieber and cannibalizing on my climbing partner to survive with 10,000 volt shock-clamps attached to my nipples just to have a 1% chance to be able to eat a crusty piece of dried vaginal secretion from a pair of your panties from 6 years ago that had never been washed.”

Seriously.  Dear any guy who feels the same way:   Girls wash their clothes.  A lot.  Get a normal fetish and move on with your life.

A Woman for #31 & “Deal-Breakers”

22 Apr

Obviously I refer to #31 every so often, so if you aren’t familiar, please go back and read this.    I think pretty highly of this guy.

So, I haven’t even told him this yet.. (Hi #31!)  but I was cruisin’ OKCupid on his page searching for chicks for him.   He did once tell me that he is looking for someone like J (my friend who contributes a bunch to the blog.)  and even though I have no idea how to find a carbon copy of J –  I decided to look.

I came across a girl who probably isn’t at all like J, but very cute and seems to have a very confident personality, much like #31 himself.     According to OKCupid, they are an 87% match, 80% friend and a 12% enemy.

I almost messaged her for him… but, then came across this:

“You should message me if:

I would rather this say “don’t message me if”. And this would be my answer:

·You are a super religious
·You go to the gym more than four times per week
·You are shorter than 5’10
·You smoke pot or cigarettes
·You have children
·You are very politically conservative

I’m sure there are a few things I’ve forgotten, I’ll be sure to add them as I go. Yes, I am picky. You should be too!

This is the beauty of online dating. I can put all of my deal breakers on the table so neither of us has to waste our time. You’re welcome.”

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…Woah…

I agree.. but only sort of.    I totally think that you can have a better handle on if something would work or not based on an online profile,  but – I will go on record as saying I know a guy who is 100% perfect for me on paper..  but in reality – not at all.

We all have deal-breakers.. and that’s okay..  but, I think we are more adaptable than we realize.    Before I ever started dating, I vowed I would NEVER date a smoker.. but, then I started seeing a guy and he charmed me in other ways that the smoking wasn’t so much of a deal breaker anymore.   I say that kids are a deal breaker, but really-  it depends on the guy.

And really, in the end, don’t we all end up with someone we never would have pictured ourselves with?   I think what we want and what we need are two completely different things.

I contemplated messaging her anyway- but she had the red light of death, and #31 holds more than one of her deal breakers..  So, I didn’t bother..  Oh well, on to the next.

Online Dating Tips

21 Apr

Sadly, those of you who read this on a regular basis probably don’t need this advice.. but I do often see what people search in google when they find my website, and some of that is disturbing…  So, on the chance that one of those may make their way to this post – I have decided to post some online dating tips.   They are in random order, and I request that my loyal followers comment their own as well!

1)  Pussylicker69  or anything along those lines is NOT a good online dating profile name.

2) You need a photo of yourself..  And not all photos can be you in a hat and/or wearing sunglasses.   We need to see your hair, and most importantly, we need to see your eyes.

3) Don’t solicit for sex.. that’s what Craiglist “Casual Encounters” section is for.  (And don’t use that if you are in a relationship.)

4) A message you write once and then copy and paste to everyone else is NOT okay.   This is called a form letter.

5)  “How are you?”  is not a good first message..  Girls get lots of those.

6) No pictures of your junk, for cryin’ out loud!

7)  Even after much back and forth messaging, it’s still not okay to turn into a pig, unless the girl does first.

 

That’s all I have for now… add your own!  Let’s make online dating a better place to be looking!

Common Sense

17 Apr

Online dating shouldn’t be rocket science.    Seriously!   You go online, actually read a profile, look at photos and determine if you think you’d like the person.   If so, send a message that is preferably NOT a form letter.  If not, move along to the next.   Have discussions, ask questions and get offline in a reasonable time to determine if there’s “the spark” or whatever.     (I put quotes around “the spark” because I don’t necessarily believe it’s always there immediately.  I take awhile to determine if there is a spark, personally.)

I got this message:

“Hey I’m Luke not sure if I’m your type but just stopping by to say hi ;)”

Okay..  short and to the point..  I get it.   Guys don’t receive messages back far more often than girls – so they have to send a higher amount to actually get a response.  Because of this, they get lazy and send the same message to everyone.   Fine..  I will still complain about it, and still blog about it.. But, I get it.

So what’s my issue, then?   This guy’s profile has absolutely ZERO information about him.    Well geez, Luke..  I don’t know if you’re my type either.  I know absolutely nothing about you, other than your first name and what your face looks like.   I have nothing to work with – therefore, I am going to just go out on a limb and guess that you are NOT my type.

Good grief, online daters..  Common sense would indicate have SOMETHING on your profile if you really expect to hear back from people.

Other Dating Websites

16 Apr

Over the past week, I have been introduced to two new dating websites out there, and I wanted to share them with you.

The first one is www.howaboutwe.com.  I really like the concept of it:  You and other users basically submit a date idea, kind of in the form of a facebook status update.

For example:   How about we… go have a picnic by the lake?

How about we… go for a bike ride?

and on and on…   If that sounds like a fun date idea to you, you can message the person.    I want a website like this for friend dates.. you know, if you want to go to such and such restaurant but none of your friends like it, or can.

The downfall to HowAboutWe is that basically they con you into either inviting your friends to unlock features, or you have to pay for it.   I am not 100% against paying for it- but the price seems a little steep.

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The second website I was told about is www.survivalistsingles.com.    This one is pretty new, and only has about 400 members in total..  but it’s designed for those who want to date other people who are prepared for the end of the world, or something along those lines.   I laughed when my friend told me about it.    Pretty much your basic online dating website, but you know you are talking to people ready for when zombies attack.

I, personally, am not prepared for when zombies attack –   but like I said, overall the downfall to that site is that there aren’t enough users..   (Yet?)   Obviously also you need to be willing to date someone who is pretty set on the end of the world coming near, or be prepared for it yourself.

 

Any other good ones out there that I should be reviewing for you all?

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