There are definitely messages out there that guys come up with (or steal) that will work to get a response more often than not. (This one, for example..) A new twitter friend also recently informed me that the Adoption post from earlier this week is also one that is known to get responses. (Ladies, we need to watch for this crap!)
Although I can’t find anything when I google search this, this is another prime example of a form letter that will work to get a response:
“I have to be honest with you. I should be working right now but my intern was asking me about online dating and I decided to show him pof. While showing him the site, I came across your profile. He’s currently laughing at me for writing this but I had to say hi.
You should definitely email me back, if only to make me look good in front of my intern. What do ya say?”
I gave him a mere “Clever.” as a response, and haven’t responded to his messages since then… because, contrary to popular belief (or, because my profile states otherwise..) I am not on the East Coast. I don’t need to be wasting anyone’s time.
I haven’t had much time to research “The Pickup Artist” where some of these messages are coming from.. but I will be doing so, and expect a rant when I do.
Soon2BeCatLady 
My fellow man is giving good guys like me a bad name. I may not always write a long email when I contact a gal online, but my emails are always original and tailored to something I find interesting about her.
Do you find that you get more form letters/straight up asking for sex emails on one site as opposed to another? I’m trying to get some feedback on what site is the cleanest so to speak for a guy.
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POF gets a lot more dirty messages than OKC.
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The reality is; the adoption phrase actually works (over and over and over) again. I have used it as an ‘Icebreaker’ over the past year and have made MANY incredible connections from it. Yes, read that again; an Ice-breaker. No less original than ‘Hi’ or ‘I saw you from across the room….’ (Or are those except from the copy-paste police, simply because they preceded some canned reply that taps into the cuteness and non-neediness factor that repels women initially like oil and water?)
Truthfully, it is incredibly tiresome to hear the incessant bantering about how women weren’t made to feel special in that first email. And truthfully, why should YOU be treated any different? Are women somehow intrinsically entitled during the initial courting stage?
I can tell you from practical experience that Long, boring ‘Nice Guy’ messages get nearly a ZERO response rate. Why? Because EVERY other guy out there does it and women need a man to demonstrate that he is not a follower and doting incessantly over her profile.
FACT: From personal experience Women WON”T read a man’s profile until at LEAST three responses have been exchanged and she starts to feel some sort of time investment.
It really doesn’t matter how you open; it’s what you do after that initial response that sets the tone and drives the outcome of success with a potential
FACT: Women have an admirably incredible talent for sniffing out bullshit and if you aren’t congruent with your character AFTER the opening with whom you proclaim to be, they will weed your ass out like a virus!
Read an excellent book like ‘The Female Brain by LuAnn Brizendine’ and you will see how women process their world around them from a highly respected neuropsychiatrist in her field. It’s simple biology. Practical and reliable information is out there; Read it!!!
FACT: Women will ALWAYS gravitate towards a man being sincere and honest, even if he’s being silly and ridiculous. There is a reason why the ‘Games’ work. Women (as a whole) just haven’t paid enough detail in the past to how their own psychology works and are now (FINALLY) becoming aware, feel men are somehow getting the upper hand and using their own understanding of female attraction as some sort of weapon to seduce/dupe them.
Read an excellent book like ‘The Female Brain by LuAnn Brizendine’ and you will see how women process their world around them from a highly respected neuropsychiatrist in her field. It’s simple biology. Practical and reliable information is out there; Read it!!!
In response to ‘Drama-Free Paul (you keep up that front good buddy; show ‘em you’re REALLY different from the rest of our Gender, Rrrrrriggghtt. Women aren’t intrinsically chumpy like you and I; they can spot the Leopard 5 miles away, ha-ha
Be honest and you will be AMAZED at how happy you can be
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