Exciting news from the Cat Cave — I am going to be joining the Twin Cities News Talk Podcast Network with a (new) podcast about dating! (Don’t worry CatLady Podcast Cult Following – I am not leaving the Wednesday night show! .. Hashtag P word.) I will be joined in the new podcast by my radio friends @BenjaminKruse and @AndrewLeeTCNT.
Links and Tweets to follow – BUT!! I need your help first!! (Yes.. YOU.. Reading this. No, not “someone else will do it.” YOU.)
Just send $5.00 to — just kidding!
Part of the goal of this podcast is to get good advice out there, and we need questions to come in that we can give advice to! (We could make them up, but why be fake?) And our advice is golden: CHECK IT OUT!
Could you send me all your burning (and non-burning) questions on dating? Pretty please with a cherry on top? Or if you have some stellar ideas on what you’d like to hear, send them my way as well!
Here.. I’ll make it easy for you:
Aww, I have the best readers in the world, that are so nice to share this blog post with everyone they know! 😉
Soon2BeCatLady 
I have a dating question for you to share. I have been married three times, have one son from my last marriage and work full time as a teacher in Florida. I have been single for 14 years, because it seems like all the men my age in southwest Florida are looking for ” sugar mamas’! If a woman is not monied, then a 50 something , or 60 something year old man is looking for a 20 years younger than him “hottie” to sport around with like arm candy.
I have been out with 3 men from dating websites. One man wanted sex after taking me out to dinner twice, then stalked me for a few weeks after I refused to comply. This man also posted a picture on the website that was taken at least ten years ago, AND said he was 2 inches taller than his true height.
Another man, a former pilot with a large commercial airlines, let’s just say it was called American Airlines, and he took me to nice restaurant and commenced to look at every other woman in the restaurant except me. I am not an unattractive woman, in fact I used to be a professional model in 3 major cities.
The last man I went out with, from Match.com was funny, loved animals like me, and we had many things in common, but on our 4th date, he invited me to go swimming at his house and there was another lady at his house. Of course she was a tall pretty blond lady, and he told me that was his massage therapist. Ha! Ha! I told him that I had to go home and turn off my coffee pot, and left quickly. Can you believe he called the next day for another get together, and seemed puzzled when I told him no.
I think I will call myself ” Single and Loving It”. Men are from Mars; even my eighty year old neighbor took me out for dinner three times and to his church, then demanded that I start spending the night with him. He bugged me so much that I considered moving, but in a few weeks, he found a woman in his widower’s club and she moved I with him for several months. He was walking his dog a few weeks after his girlfriend moved out and I. Asked him what happened. He replied, “Oh, she wanted to get married” so I told her to pack up and get out.
I have yet to meet my “soul mate” and I am 64. I guess I missed that boat…….
Cat Lady in Naples Florida
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OMG those are awful stories! His massage therapist? W.T.F.
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Seems more like a very long declarative statement than an actual question.
Am I missing something here?
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So I liked episode 2.
Aside from the whole ‘asking way overcomplicated questions that need more time for their explanation than their answer’ thing, I do feel like I got some more perspective out of it. I love perspective. I actually still avoid eye contact far too often. Bad habit from a far too introverted past, perhaps.
Thank you for notifying me, by the way. Are these podcasts going to be aired regularly?
On the pedantic dumping for the most mundane of reasons question: While I don’t have an answer, I have read a study on dating that addressed this. Online dating provides people with a huge catalog of potential partners. On some people this has the effect that they feel like they can be as picky as they want, because there’s always more profiles to discover, more dates to be had and people to meet.
I actually wonder if a smaller dating pool (small country like the Netherlands, or someone who’s not very mobile) would make people less picky, or that there’s still that windowshopping effect.
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Don’t avoid eye contact!! 🙂
Yes, our podcast is a weekly event. Posted usually noon-ish (central time) on Mondays!
I do often wonder how the hell anyone found each other before the internet. It seems like a much simpler, yet a much more complicated time.
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Now that’s a rather inconsistently human statement to make. There were personal ads around back then, but perhaps the lack of an alternative led more people to either socialize more, or eject themselves from the dating pool. Or perhaps they were less picky. Probably a combination of all that and more.
Anyway, another point that was raised during the podcast was how hard it can be to tell someone you like them. I’m actually experiencing that right now. It has little to do with giving up power, more with the eternal high school we are in and the fears that come along with it. An irrational fear that probably vanishes when you have some more experience actually expressing that you like someone.
It’s odd how my experience asking people out over the internet hasn’t really made it easier to calm my nerves when I want to ask someone out in real life. I’ll probably formulate a question with that topic in mind.
P.S. I pronounce my name slightly different, but that’s only fair. It’s a Portugese name on a Dutch guy, most Americans who have tried came up with a similar noise 🙂
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Spell it out phonetically for me!
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I just looked up an IPA table to quickly learn phonetics. Turns out it’s not that easy. I got lost on wikipedia for about an hour.
‘Ri’ is pronounced like how you would in the French word ‘Rire’.
Stress is on ‘car’, which also has more of a rollling R. In phonetics language: alveolar trill. Both r’s are pretty much pronounced the same way.
As for the last syllable, ‘do’ is not pronounced with an əʊ sound. You pronounce it like the ‘o’ in the word ‘no’.
I have never before spent so much time on phonetics, by the way. It’s a strange new world of language, with a crazy amount of detail into how you breathe or how air passes over your tongue.
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