What happens when a woman creates an obviously fake OKCupid profile, declaring her love for cats and only cats?
Exciting news from the Cat Cave — I am going to be joining the Twin Cities News Talk Podcast Network with a (new) podcast about dating! (Don’t worry CatLady Podcast Cult Following – I am not leaving the Wednesday night show! .. Hashtag P word.) I will be joined in the new podcast by my radio friends @BenjaminKruse and @AndrewLeeTCNT.
Links and Tweets to follow – BUT!! I need your help first!! (Yes.. YOU.. Reading this. No, not “someone else will do it.” YOU.)
Just send $5.00 to — just kidding!
Part of the goal of this podcast is to get good advice out there, and we need questions to come in that we can give advice to! (We could make them up, but why be fake?) And our advice is golden: CHECK IT OUT!
Could you send me all your burning (and non-burning) questions on dating? Pretty please with a cherry on top? Or if you have some stellar ideas on what you’d like to hear, send them my way as well!
Here.. I’ll make it easy for you:
Aww, I have the best readers in the world, that are so nice to share this blog post with everyone they know! 😉
If you aren’t tuning into my weekly podcast, you are missing out. Last week we discussed being aggressive in dating, and I wanted to re-cap as well as add a thought or two.
My sexy beast of a co-host, @A_Dude79, brought up that he read an article that suggests to males that instead of beating around the bush and asking a girl if she’d like to get coffee, BE AGGRESSIVE and tell the girl you’d like to take her out on a date. If she says yes, then there is no question whatsoever that it’s a date. If she says no, then you’ve saved yourself some money. At the very least everyone is on the same page.
I agree with this entirely. Being aggressive shows that you know what you want, and you aren’t afraid to take a risk to get it. It’s just manly to tell a girl you’d like to take her out on a date. And – most girls want to date a man. — I know I do.
We discussed on the podcast that “Let’s get coffee sometime” can be taken a number of different ways. Now – let me tell you this: Most girls know that this means a date. We just play stupid. If we’re not interested in dating you, we’re likely to go to coffee anyway and make it a friend-date. (And I know how much you guys hate the friend-zone..) You are more likely to get a straight answer on if a girl is interested in you if you are aggressive.
I digitally bumped into an old acquaintance of mine, and sent a “hello” message over because I had already clicked his page. (Because I remember everything and everyone, I assume everyone else does as well.) We’ve chatted back and forth, but I have absolutely no interest in dating him. He thinks it’d be fun to get coffee and catch up.
Will I go? Sure.
Do I think it’s a date? No.
Does he think it’s a date? Probably.
Would I have said yes had he asked me out on a date? No. (Fun fact: I am 99% sure that he doesn’t even remember my first name.)
So why would I go to coffee then? Because coffee is casual and I like people. Also, because I can’t guarantee he thinks it’s a date, maybe he does just want to catch up. And, who knows – even though I doubt it, there could be chemistry?
Guys- just be more forward with your intentions, and consider rejection as money and time saved. Try it out and comment or tweet to me with how it went. I have a feeling we will all be pleasantly surprised.
Tonight, @A_Dude79 gave some tips on “How to Win Guys Over” (in response to my “How to Win Girls Over”) on our podcast. He had some excellent reminders for us girls, and I’d strongly suggest you take a listen. (The Podcast)
However, one of his suggestions seemed a little off to me. Keeping in mind that these tips are for people who have been on a few dates, he said “Be yourself.” I countered that most people are on their best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. He believes that people are only on their best behavior for the first few dates. I believe that people are on their best behavior for much longer, maybe even so much as 6 months to a year.
We need you to help settle the score- and A_Dude79 will share the results with he podsturbates next week Wednesday at 10:00pm Eastern Standard Time.
A few months back, I got an e-mail offer from EHarmony that was impossible to refuse. Their service is normally anywhere from $12.95 to $60.00 per month (roughly) depending on how long you sign up for. ($13 per month if you sign up for a year, $60 for one month) They ran a special a few months ago that I was able to sign up for $6.95 per month, for 3 months. I decided I couldn’t afford not to try EHarmony… but now that my 3 month stint is over, all I can do is hope that EHarm thinks all publicity is good publicity.
First and foremost, (and EH isn’t the only online dating company to do this..) anything over $15 per month is too expensive to be paying a computer to match you. While I find their 12 month subscription price to be reasonable, the fact that they want you to sign up for an entire year makes me feel like maybe they aren’t confident they are going to find you the love of your life.
On that note – given that some people actually PAY them $60.. profiles like this should not be something ever found on their website:
Seriously.. if I ran that website, anyone who put specific key words in their profile would be immediately flagged for staff review. (EH did remove the user upon seeing my picture tweet, and asking me to send them an e-mail with more info.)
I, personally, did not have any luck whatsoever on EHarmony. I sent out their questions to users I was interested in, and responded back to some.. but nothing ever went further than the guided communication. I don’t blame EH for that – but after a month, I was informed that my distance preference (a radius of 30 miles.. according to the most recent census, there are 3.28 million people within 30 miles of yours truly.) was too specific and they encouraged me to change this to a 100 mile radius. Now.. I know people will take drastic measures for love.. but, really.. even 30 miles away for a stranger from the internet is pushin’ it.
So, I started getting matched with people far out of city limits, which was really a waste of time. But then, after another couple days, I was alerted that my age range of 27 to 34 was too specific, and I should broaden those requirements as well. Are you joking?
I have decided that I got a sweet deal because no one uses EHarmony anymore. I still think that OKCupid is your best deal out there – it’s free, and you might get some kooky people in there (see rest of blog), but it’s easy to use, and it’s fun.
So, long story short.. In my opinion: Eharmony sucks.
Totally unrelated to EHarmony: Tomorrow night (Wednesday, August 28, 2013) at 10:00pm Central Standard Time, A_Dude79 and I will be podcasting live. We have Catfish/Nigerian Scammers, “The First Move” and the burning question of “Is Facebook ‘Friendship’ the new Phone Number when it comes to dating?” on the agenda. If you haven’t tuned in before, tomorrow would be a great night to do so. We take calls and feedback from Twitter as well. Put it on your calendar and don’t miss it! Link HERE.
Hi there-Velvet here!
So…I tried a fun little experiment the other day (not THAT kind! Get your mind out of the gutter) and I thought we could all learn a little something from it. I know that I certainly did!!
It all started with meeting a guy at an actual real life event, through real life friends. (I KNOW-weird, right???) Heck, not only did I meet him IRL, he has NEVER been on a dating website. Anyway, we’ve gone out a couple times, and yes, I told him that I do the whole online dating thing. Yes, he is in on the whole nose-licking story/nightmare. He did giggle at me a bit, and I did give him a dirty look, and then the conversation took a different course. The next time we were hanging out, however, he was bugging me to find out what my online profile is like. So, I figured what the hell?
Here’s the deal: he said that he NEVER would have dated me if he had only read my profile!!! Whaaaat? I am freaking adorable on there. Witty, charming, honest…what do you mean you wouldn’t date me???
I put on my big girl panties and asked him why. Well, the first thing that he pointed out was that he is 5 years older than my maximum age limit. Ok, smartass, other than THAT – why not?? After he told me to relax, he pointed out that he likes the fact that I am a bit of a, well, “big personality”, and he found that my profile downplayed that a lot.
So what the hell do I do about that?? Am I supposed to put on my profile that I strive to be the center of attention? That I’ve been known to jump into lakes in various stages of undress to raise money for cancer research? That the idea of going bowling in a tutu doesn’t even cause me to hesitate for a moment?
His answer? Well, yeah – it should!
Which I guess leads me to my closing thought, that I don’t really have an answer for. Ya’ll should discuss and let me know what YOU think. (CatLady doesn’t really know either…) Do I risk the wackos coming out in droves by putting some of your quirky weirdness in your profile? Or is that why I haven’t met my One True Love online–am I just too much of a freak to stuff into a few paragraphs on OKC?
And yes, I’ll keep you posted about the guy. We’ll call him Moonshine.