Making Decisions For Others

25 Aug

If you follow me on Twitter, or listen to any of my podcasts – you likely know I’ve been busy with relatives from overseas.  But, online dating doesn’t wait around if you have family visiting, so I decided the blog shouldn’t wait either!

First and most importantly – wrote up probably the nicest thing anyone has ever written about me.  They are a website dedicated to all topics regarding dating and relationships, and I’d highly recommend checking them out.  (Especially what they wrote about me!  — and ESPECIALLY before reading the following online dating interaction.  I enjoy proof in the pudding that I honestly think online dating is fun, and I’m really not pessimistic about it.  Don’t let the lines on the screen fool you!!)


I mention on my dating profile that I do not spend, and only save $5 bills.  My online dating profile name also teases my blog, without totally giving it away.


“You can probably buy a lot of cats with all that money.”

“Especially because they are usually free!”


I’m sure you can all agree that I stated a true fact.  And, because you now know for sure that I am an unrealistically optimistic person (thanks to DatingAdvice), you know that my response was me being nice!


“Free to get.  Expensive to get rid of.”



He was right!  I am pretty sure I could get a litter of cats for next to nothing.  I fostered a cat once (for about 2 months), and I couldn’t PAY someone to take it off my hands.


“Are you really alone if you’re surrounded by all your cats and crazy thoughts?”

“Well, I don’t actually have any cats.”


“True.. Soon!”  


At that point, I gathered he knew my secret identity.  If that were the case, I was essentially confirming.   Cue the record scratch:


“You’re sexy. It’s too bad you take yourself so seriously.”  


Wait… what?  I was having a good time messaging back and forth until he decided my personality.


“You know how I take myself?  That special power might be broken…”

“Yep. Its called sarcasm.”

“I haven’t been sarcastic with you at all.”

“I like your curves. You want to get coffee next week?”


I’m sure you can sense my eyeroll through the interwebs.




4 Responses to “Making Decisions For Others”

  1. turnipsforbreakfast September 12, 2016 at 6:07 am #

    There’s something offputting about physical comments when a guy hasn’t met you in the flesh, I find:) Well done on getting your blog positively noted!


  2. Cassi September 18, 2016 at 4:03 am #

    Just discovered your blog and am enjoying thus far! While I agree with the previous commenter about the physical comments, I actually have a different take on the overall interaction. It read to me (with no context other than this post) as though he was being sarcastic with his “too bad” comment, and tried – albeit poorly – to clarify in his next reply to you. Online dating is hard indeed!


  3. Lucy September 24, 2016 at 8:04 pm #

    I’d love to find a blog- don’t really want to start one if a good one exists, that compares sites and has the ins and outs (like getting the screens to actually work, or how to permanently get rid of lingering likes), etc. I’m over 60 so maybe there is something in that direction? SOME SORT OF spreadsheet would be awesome. Does this exist???


    • Soon2BeCatLady September 25, 2016 at 5:04 pm #

      Hmm… not that I know of, Lucy. Doesn’t help that more sites and apps are being added all the time.

      What are you using currently? I have a few tricks up my sleeve, I’m sure! Email me:


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