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A New Online Dating Website, That’s Not Online Dating at all!

1 Jul

A friend of mine (who I happened to meet through an online dating website) sent me a link to an article about a new online dating website, which truth be told isn’t really online dating afterall.   After reading about it, I immediately became intrigued.  I had planned to write about it after I had the chance to use it, but a few of my Twitter followers got angry..  so, just plan to hear more about it in the future as well.

The website is called Tawkify.   As I said before, it’s not really online dating.  You answer a few basic questions (hobbies, what you are looking for, etc.)  and the website owners are going to find someone for you.   (Side note:  They also use your Klout score if you have one..  If you don’t know what Klout is:  It basically tells you how influential you are in social media..   I don’t know how much I trust it, as on my personal twitter, Klout says I am influential in bowling, which makes NO sense..  But, I digress..)   Once they find someone for you – you can choose to either talk on the phone, go for a walk, or go on a mystery date.

I signed up, and immediately got a call from their online dating robot butler.    It actually made me a little nervous.  (The excited kind of nervous.)   It wasn’t a match yet, as those happen on Mondays, I hear.

No phone numbers are exchanged unless you exchange them on your phone call (if that is the option you choose.)   And the call will end abruptly with no warning in 10 minutes.   If you want to talk to the person again,  you alert Tawkify, and if the match does the same,  you get a phone call again the following Monday.    So, really,  you have 10 minutes of your life to lose.   (Or a walk, which is good for you.. or an hour-long mystery date, which sounds fun!)

What I like about Tawkify, at least out of the gate, is that you don’t go through a bunch of information and pictures.   I am getting so tired of that.   I feel it’s unfair to rule someone out for a bad photo, because let’s face it..  A lot of the world is not photogenic.    And, don’t we all find ourselves finding one tidbit of info about the person we’re online shopping for that we think “Nah..”   Maybe it is time to go back to the old fashioned blind date.   And, it’s ideal that someone who barely knows you is doing the setting up – because they don’t know your “but.”  (How I Met Your Mother reference:  “She’s really great, but…”)

I don’t even think I would be ashamed to publicly admit I met someone I was dating through Tawkify.   Let’s be honest,  if I meet the love of my life on POF,  we will be making up some story as to how we met..   You may not know or believe this,  but Soon2BeCatLady is actually a pretty classy chick.

So – I am totally going to do this, and I hope you readers also on the prowl for internet love give it a shot too.   It’s not free.. (If you have a Klout score of 40 or higher, you will get at least one match free.)   but until tomorrow (Sunday, July 1st, 2012)  there is a half-off special.   I bought 3 matches for $25.    (Or you could get 1 match for $10.)

So, stay tuned and I will let you know how it goes..   and let’s discuss also!  Tell me your thoughts via Twitter or comment here!  (And at least look at Tawkify.com, as there are a lot of other neat features too..)

E-Harmony

31 May

#31 is off the market ya’ll,  he found his woman on EHarmony (and she’s awesome).  So.. I signed up for  free communication weekend on EHarmony this past weekend..  and I don’t get it at all.   Well – scratch that.. I get it.. but I think it’s stupid.

From what I understand,  I didn’t have full access to the site on this free trial, which bugs me.   I am not going to pay $30/month for something that I don’t get to test-drive the features.  (Of course, it’s cheaper if you commit to longer,  but why would someone commit to longer when they don’t understand it!?)    So, keep in mind – in this opinion piece –  I am definitely not fully informed.

What I disliked about EHarmony:

1)  There seems to be no browsing feature (which was confirmed by #31).   As you may know from reading my blog, I have a tendency of finding people I know on these sites.   The fact that I can’t quick browse through and see if there is anyone I wouldn’t want seeing me on there, is a pretty clear cut deal-breaker.  I did not add any photos to my profile on my free weekend, and I used an alias name.

2) Apparently over the weekend I had 51 matches.  I have absolutely no idea why these people were listed as matches for me.  Yeah yeah..  “27 layers of whatever.”   No.. I want to know specifically why these people were listed for me.

3) The matches are sorted alphabetically – and there appears to be no way to get rid of them.   So – anytime there was anyone new, I had to scroll through my list of 51 people, and see where the little red “NEW” light was.   This was uber-annoying.    It also only lists the names as well, so in order to see if these people are even attractive, you have to click their name.

4)  Free communication?  Yeah, not really.  I couldn’t actually message people.  I could go through the guided communication, which I understand from a business standpoint.  But,  it doesn’t really make it clear how that process works.  Great, I answered some questions for some guy and checked 5 to send back.   Nothing went further than that..   I don’t get it.

 

So – yeah… If I were to think about paying for online dating,  I am pretty sure EHarmony would be out.     Feel free to try and convince me otherwise.

Body Type

25 May

For those of you who are blessed enough to not have to try to find love online – All of the dating websites have you list your body type.   Generally, the options are very similar.   Thin,  Athletic, Average or Curvy.   And I hate this question.

I hate this question because for some reason, in the online world,  curvy is the option to nicely say that you are overweight.   I don’t get it.    I know plenty of thin women that I would describe as curvy.   I didn’t think having curves was considered a bad thing.  (I will say I did laugh when I saw a boy listed himself as  curvy.)

POF also has an ad on their site that says “Are you Curvy? Find men who are looking for you!”  and shows a photo of a woman who, yes – has curves,  but is definitely overweight.

Is our society not fucked up enough with women and their body types?   Who decided this nonsense?

When digging around a little bit for this post.. I noticed that OKCupid has added in some more options since I lasted listed myself as “Average.”

So now…  *drumroll please*

Soon2BeCatLady –  Body Type:   Used Up.

Intelligence is SEXY.

19 May

More class from the meat market:

“hay u like sex”

Oh my God..

“1) Hay is for horses.

2) Is this a statement, or a question? Your lack of punctuation
leaves me guessing.”

“if u do tex me ***-***-****”

Believe it or not, there was at least 3 hours between each message.

I shouldn’t be dumbfounded anymore, but how are there so many stupid people roaming this planet?     And what kind of question is that?   Don’t most people like sex?   I’m not stupid, and I know what he meant.. but it seems like a really dumb reason to “tex” someone.

Does anyone want his number?

Long Distance Continued..

17 May

In order for today’s edition to make sense,  it is important you read my blog entry from yesterday.   Go ahead, I will wait.

Well –  Mr. Algeria certainly wasn’t fed up with me, as I much anticipated.   He informed me that Skype is free, as is Yahoo Messenger.  (Don’t even get me started on Yahoo Messenger..)    I then informed him that I don’t have a webcam, which was total B.S..    He asked if I was interested in a serious relationship with him, and to be honest in my response – so I told him I was not.   He went on his merry way and sent me his original form letter not even a half hour later.

So – pretty boring and not really worthy of a follow-up post..

BUT…   I then got a message from someone today that said this:

“wish i didnt live so far from you your damn cute!!”

Out of curiosity, I clicked his page..  he lives a few cities away from me.  I couldn’t help but laugh out loud.    Oh boy.

Long Distance

16 May

I got a message from a man in Algeria today.  Yes, Algeria.   I promise you I am not on the same continent as Algeria.

“hi In fact, I’m here for serious relationship I said maybe you want a serious relationship and honest thanks”

Part of me wondered if this was a spam bot..  but, figured in case it wasn’t, it may be worth it to respond for your entertainment.

“I don’t believe a long distance relationship can be serious.”

“Why I am serious and it does not matter to me distance is not bad faith to me like what you hear on the internet I want a family with a girl you want me you will know everything if you are interest to me Believe me, I am not a crook”

None of this really makes sense, Mr. Nixon..  But – let’s cut to the chase:

“Well. I don’t want to live in Algeria. So you will need to move here for this family you speak of.”

“No problem in the decision where you live I do not matter to me any country I want to be with me forever and be the title of our own life, happiness, love and fidelity”

“Believe me, I have no bad intention, and I’m not just talking about the family of every sensible person wants a family”

“You will see me in Skype And know more about some You will know my family And everything about me There is no hide anything from you Will you say anything openly and honestly”

“I don’t have Skype.”

 

I can only assume that the time difference has put him to bed, and he hasn’t given up on me yet.    More to come, I am sure..

 

Exactly What I Had In Mind

15 May

“Hello,
Would you like me to cross-dress in panties and stockings and massage your feet or be your girl toy? “

Well, that’s certainly random and out of nowhere.  Not really, Sir.

Or how about this one:

“Hi…
You deserve attention… I would love to give it to you in classy written inuendos about interacting with you in different scenarios… i wont bore you… online friends only of course ;p”

I think most people who have legit photos of themselves posted are those who would potentially meet up in real life, and aren’t necessarily looking for the online erotica I would anticipate this guy would send if his request were granted..

But alas – I don’t like reading erotica sent to me from anyone, especially 50+ year old men.

Spell bounding

12 May

Oh you boys and your creative adjectives.   Plenty of Fish rarely lets me down.  I changed my profile on POF to say,  “All I am looking for is someone to shovel my driveway in the winter, and to mow the lawn in the summer – is that really too much to ask?”  

Apparently it’s not…

“Hi beautiful lady..How are you doing today? I came across your profile and trust me it was spell bounding. I couldn’t resist to know more about you.”

Apparently me wanting a man to do man chores is spell bounding.

However-  I did the same experiment on OKCupid, and I am not getting quite as many messages as before.   More proof behind if you are somewhat intelligent and actually looking for a relationship – OKCupid is the better site to be on.   POF is full of dudes without their shirt on – telling girls who don’t like “man work” that they are spell bounding.

 

The Secret – How To Get Girls To Look at YOUR Profile.

9 May

I will go on record to say that this is a somewhat intoxicated posting tonight.

I will also go on record to say that while I think animals are neat, I have learned recently that I am not really an animal person.   I can almost say with confidence that my future cats will most definitely be imaginary ones that require no maintenance.

Guys always complain to me that no one looks at their profile.    Do you want that to change?   Take a picture with a kitten, a puppy – or any fluffy creature preferably of the small (baby) variety.    Seriously.

If I see a picture of a guy holding or interacting with a puppy, or a kitten.. I swear I will click that page EVERY time.    It can’t be a picture of JUST the kitten or the puppy..  OKCupid frowns upon that, and that won’t get me to click.  You want us associating “OMG SO CUTE!!” with you in the photo as well.. trust me.  Interaction is key!!

Why?  Because maternal instinct kicks in.   Girls, most girls anyway,  LOVE babies.   (Don’t post a picture of you with a baby though,  we will think it’s yours..)    If you have a picture of you snuggling with a cute little kitten,  the blinking light of “father potential!!” turns on.   Even if we don’t want kids now, or ever… most of us are wired this way.

Ladies.. tell me.. is this not the CUTEST thing ever (used with permission):

Seriously.. you don’t need to have your own.. just borrow one for a photo.  It will work.

Online Dating “Rules”

7 May

While I could and will easily argue that the “rules” for dating in general are kind of stupid..  (or perhaps games..)   It kind of bugs me that online dating seemingly doesn’t really have any established rules.

Let’s say I am talking to someone online, and for lack of a better term, we are hitting it off.   We meet in person, it appears to go well, but we both still keep our accounts.   Does that mean that the date didn’t go well?   I understand going out on a date doesn’t mean exclusivity.. but, at that point, don’t you start to wonder how many other people the other party is talking to?

When do you get to the point where you disable or delete your account?   None of that is really established.   For me, blog aside,  I wouldn’t be the first to delete my account, because then I would never know if he disabled or deleted his.   And, he could very well think the same thing.

After I suggested to a guy on POF that no one reads profiles (back in the day where my profile flat out said “I don’t live even close to your area..”)  after he asked me to meet up several times..  He suggested the website was frustrating because after he’d meet up with girls, they would keep their account active and log on.

I guess it’s difficult for me to come to terms with because I am a very loyal person.   If I am truly interested,  I would not go out with other people.   (When the time comes when I should be deleting my account,  the future boyfriend and I will need to have a discussion about the blog and figure that out..)   But, even so,  anytime that I have met up with someone, even if it was once –  if they then later messaged me on the online dating website,  I took it as “Well, he’s not entirely sold on the idea of [CatLady].  I guess it didn’t go that well.”

Are there any established “rules” for online dating that I am unaware of?   I would love to be enlightened.

Sorry..  just a rant tonight.   Have a good Monday everyone!

 

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