Despite that my profile specifically says: “If you strictly ask me how I am, do not expect a response..” I got this message:
“Hey I’m [Name]. How are you?”
Now – Like I have said time and again, and even on my POF profile.. I won’t respond. However, the face that showed up attached to the message was someone I went to elementary, middle and high school with.
“I went to school with you, [Name].”
“I was gonna ask that. You look familiar. How are you?”
Now not answering how I was seemed rude.. and, I at least try to be nice when it involves people I know in real life.
“Fine. Yourself?”
“I’m good.”
Awesome! A chance to let the conversation die at that.. I didn’t respond for lack of anything to respond to. But, alas..
“What are you looking for on here?”
“Nothing. This site is a meat market.”
“What you mean?”
“Exactly what I said.”
(Good Lord.. I mean POF is a meat market.)
“Well do you want to get to know me?”
Now, flat out “no” is just bitchy.. so I figured I’d try the easy approach first..
“I already know you.. I have known you for years.”
“How do you know me? We never talked haha”
“Bullshit. I talked to you on the school bus almost every day.”
“That was like 9 10 years ago tho”
I get that people change and all that, but I think we hold true to who we are for the most part. I never had anything against this dude, but certainly was never attracted to him – and already he isn’t impressing me on POF.. So, once again, I didn’t respond, hoping the conversation would fizzle. Wrong again.
“Are you thinking I am someone else? I’m confused.”
“No. I know who you are. You went to [Elementary School] and you lived right down the road from me. You graduated from high school in [Year].”
“Oh ok. Well we should hang out again.”
I took this as another opportunity not to respond. If a girl isn’t responding favorably, or at all… She isn’t going to hang out with you.
“If you want”
I didn’t and don’t want.. so I didn’t respond.
“You should call me sometime ***-***-****”
“I don’t really do the phone thing.”
(Which is bullshit.. but me just trying my best to be as nice as possible about it.)
“Oh how come?”
Once again, I didn’t feel this really warranted a response.. So the message went ignored.
“So do you want to hang out sometime?”
After showing this to Velvet a few hours later, she told me that I needed to be a bit more bitchy. My response wasn’t bitchy enough for Velvet.. but.. baby steps..
“Not really.”
Guys – unless a girl truly is a bitch, she doesn’t want to be. If she isn’t responding in a way to keep the conversation going (like only answering your questions, not asking any of her own..) or isn’t responding at all… Take a freaking hint already! Do you really want someone who you have to “win over” anyway?
Soon2BeCatLady 