Soon2BeCatLady

Not only will a message that could be sent to anyone scream “FORM LETTER!” at me, but throw in that I am online, you visit my page and 30 seconds later I have a lengthy message from you, and that also is a red flag.

However, this guy’s profile seemed interesting..  I decided I would respond anyway.

“I’ll never know how to start these off properly. Mayhaps I am too neurotic. Question mark?

P.S. You can call me [Shortened version of name]. It’s cool.”

“Did you just deal me a form letter? =)”

Now..  if someone calls you out on that,  really – that’s your opportunity to fix it.

“That was not my intention. It does sound a bit off doesn’t it (i.e. bullshit)? I’m just not very good at writing the first message, breaking the ice.
My apologies.”

“If it’s a letter you could send to anyone (i.e. not specific to the person) – it’s very form-ish.”

“No, you’re right. Thank you for pointing that out. I’m such a dork.
Nothing to see here. Moving on.”

I wasn’t really sure what to respond, but – again, attempting to give him the benefit of the doubt, I sent a smiley face.

“Is that a “finally, I don’t have to talk to that a-hole anymore” smile or a “yay, the dummy figured it put” smile?”

“..Neither? I just like to smile, smiling’s my favorite.”

“I’m sorry. I’m just really hard on myself. Now, to die alone.”

From here, to me.. all bets were off.  I am not going to coddle anyone.  That entire non-existent relationship flashed before my eyes.   No self-esteem and in constant need of reassurance?  No thanks.

“Maybe you should work on that..
Or – if you’re determined to die alone: 
Get some cats, that’s what I am going to do”

“That might work out because I’m deathly allergic to cats. Also, you quoted ‘Elf’. Nice. You probably won’t die alone. Me on the other hand.”

He gets a point for catching the “Elf” reference.   But, that’s it.   He stopped responding after I messaged back that we all create our own destiny.  Probably because I wasn’t feeding his starving ego.

If someone’s responding…  (especially when their profile indicates they may not..)  that should be enough of a pick-me-up.

Can we make a rule that if you are searching for love online without a photo – then you, in return, can’t see anyone’s photo?

“im new to this whole concept.but you seem my type,;) 

i realise showing a topless pic of me and no face is not a good start but would you believe im actually almost as hot as you 🙂 and that is the only pic i know that doesnt have my face in shot that i could think of(its seems vein but if you ant a pic just send me an email address that you’d be happy for me to send to an i shall) 
im starting a fitness enterprise new year and doing a marathon in april for charity 
I really am a charming well to do guy whos just a bit unlucky i think. 

p.s you seem really cute an if i saw you on a noght out i wouldn’t hesitate to say hello.”

I am sure Mr. Shirtless is probably a nice guy.. but, spelling and grammar do go a long way.   I cringe just looking at this.   And, you just know it’s a form letter too, since he felt so inclined to add the P.S. to it.   First he’s actually almost as hot as I am, but then P.S.  I seem really cute?   To me,  cute and hot are different categories.  (We could discuss that in the comments if I’m wrong.)

Seriously..  This message is nothing a little spell check wouldn’t fix.  It’s SO easy to use, too.  (However,  only he can help not showing his face.)

“Sit on my virgin face​”

…Because nothing screams SEXY like “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

“Baby, you make my floppy disk turn into a hard drive​.  I was so enchanted by your beauty that I ran into that wall over there. I am going to need your name and number (for insurance purposes, of course!)​”

1)  Cheesy.

2)  Without digging further than this message, I am going to go out on a limb and say this gentlemen didn’t join the computer era until the floppy disk was old news.

3)  Oh my GOD,  he passed third grade!!   Way to go on the commas, buddy!!

I’m going to cut this short –  I’ve got a podcast to be a part of.