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Sexual UserNames

27 Nov

I think we need to start a new online dating rule:   If your user name is something disgusting – you aren’t allowed to get mad if you get called out on it.

I’m not going to tell you what his username was, but I’d love to hear your guesses in the comments!

“if you are even half as sweet as you are gorgeous i would feel lucky to get to know you and go out with you”

“Aww.. Well, this may indicate my sweetness level:  I’m pretty disturbed by your user name.”

“I’m way more than a name”

“Right.  But you likely chose the name, which is the questionable part.”

“I did. and I’m not ashamed of it at all.”

“I wasn’t suggesting you had to be.  I’m just saying I’m disturbed by it.”

“Lmao that’s too fucking funny. You are so pathetic.  grow up lil kid”

“Now I’m too sweet.. go figure.”

“Every woman claims they are disturbed by it. But I’m sure its not disturbing when your cumming all over a guys face”

“Hmm.. I guess I wouldn’t know.”

“Really.  Is it something you don’t wanna try?  Obviously its ok if that’s the case.  just wondering.”

“It doesn’t sound appealing, but that’s probably because I’m a ‘lil kid’.”

“I was an asshole to say that.”

Kudos to him for trying to right the wrong, I guess.  Seriously, though, guys:  You don’t need to use something sexual as your user name, and you shouldn’t! Or at least if you do – be understanding that maybe not everyone is into the same kink you are.

Anyone have any cats to send me?

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Interesting Approach..

17 Nov

On OKCupid,  it doesn’t take long to recognize people that visit your profile constantly.  This first message came from someone who, according to my visitor list, never looked at my profile. (Although, not possible since he would have had to in order to send a message.)

“Quit being a bitch.”

This message really caught me off guard.  My profile has always been well-received, and I don’t have the “Responds VERY Selectively” red light of death.

Since I certainly don’t consider myself a bitch, I responded, “Only if you quit being nice.”   (Get it?  Because he wasn’t being nice!)

And within eight hours, he deactivated his OKCupid profile.

This mystery remains unsolved.

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Being Offensive on Tinder

8 Nov

I’m going to put on my psychologist hat for half a second, and presume that the boy that sent these messages really was looking forward to me flipping out on him.   I must have ruined his entire evening when I did not.

“Your first photo makes me one to crank one out into your mouth and all over your face.  Then have you make me a sandwich and I’ll eat it and go home.”

I really can’t imagine someone sends something like that and expects it to happen.  I decided to play along.

“That sounds like an excellent plan.  When works for you?”

“Actually just looked at your other pics and changed my mind!  I can send a couple black guys over to do it for me”

I don’t know if there was some hidden meaning in there I should have caught that should have been offensive towards me?  I was still going to play along and not go according to his plan of me freaking out.

“Even better!”

“Like anal?  You strike me as a girl who takes it in the servants entrance”

“Oh yeah, all the time.”

“Let them blow loads up your ass?”

“Why not?  ..But only on Wednesdays!”

..And then he gave up and blocked me.  Screen shots for the win!

What an asshole, though.  Some people don’t deserve clean air.

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Persistence

5 Nov

This morning while getting ready for work, my phone beeped that I had a new Tinder match, and not ten seconds later, that I had a new Tinder message.


“Let’s make out!”

Goodness.. it was 7AM.

“How does that work?  Do we lick our phone screens or something?”

“No we hang out and actuslly make out lol”

“Well, that won’t be possible, because I have work.”

“Ha ok after work lol”

“No can do, I have plans.”   (Yeah.. plans to blog about you..)

“I see. Quickie before work?”

“That’s also going to be a no.”

“Too bad.”

What did you do today, Dude?  “I tried to convince girls to make out with me all day on Tinder.”  GET A JOB!

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Girls Strike Out, Too.

26 Oct

I often have a lot of men complaining to me that women never take the initiative and send the first message in online dating.   I’m not here to say that we should or shouldn’t, but if I find someone I think I might like –  I am not shy to send a message.  You really have nothing to lose but a few minutes, if that.

I found a profile of someone in the area, in my age range, who is attractive, seems fun and that he has his ducks in a row.. and he mentions his adoration for Phil Collins more than once.  (Which could very easily be sarcasm.. but if you list it once, it’s fair game in a message.)

I sent him a note.  I won’t post it because it would make his profile easily find-able.  I asked him about something Phil Collins that he referenced on his profile, and gave it a few days.  Clearly he would see that I’m his future bride.

Nothing.   So, I did what any sensible girl would do..  I sent one last attempt:

“How could I just let you walk away?  .. Just let you leave without a trace?”

It clearly wasn’t meant to be if he didn’t find that hilarious.  Oh well.

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Jollies

19 Oct

“When was the last time yu was eatin out”

I was pretty sure I knew what he was asking.. but, due to his horrendous grammar, I was going to sway it in my favor.

“I was at a restaurant last night.”

“Nice! When was the last time you had oral sex”

“Why do you ask?  I feel that’s pretty personal, and none of your business.”

“Who cares? not like were gonna meet anyways”

“We aren’t?  Why are you messaging me then?”

“Becuz Im a perv and I get my jollies off by asking girls questions like this”

“I’m not here to help you with your jollies.”

“Well sorry”

 

..Is he really, though?

 

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I Need YOUR Help!

11 Oct

Exciting news from the Cat Cave —  I am going to be joining the Twin Cities News Talk Podcast Network with a (new) podcast about dating!   (Don’t worry CatLady Podcast Cult Following – I am not leaving the Wednesday night show! .. Hashtag P word.)  I will be joined in the new podcast by my radio friends @BenjaminKruse and @AndrewLeeTCNT.

Links and Tweets to follow –  BUT!!  I need your help first!!  (Yes.. YOU.. Reading this.  No, not “someone else will do it.”  YOU.)

Just send $5.00 to —  just kidding!

Part of the goal of this podcast is to get good advice out there, and we need questions to come in that we can give advice to!  (We could make them up, but why be fake?)  And our advice is golden:   CHECK IT OUT!

Could you send me all your burning (and non-burning) questions on dating?  Pretty please with a cherry on top?    Or if you have some stellar ideas on what you’d like to hear, send them my way as well!

Here.. I’ll make it easy for you:

Go back

Your message has been sent

 

Aww, I have the best readers in the world, that are so nice to share this blog post with everyone they know!  😉

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Your Mom

15 Sep

A good rule of thumb when it comes to online dating is:  Never send a message that you wouldn’t be comfortable showing your mother.

“hey whats up? do you want to have bareback sex with me?”

Oh gee, can I!?  I should be used to stupid messages by now, but it still floors me that a good chunk of people on the internet find this behavior acceptable.  Don’t they have parents?

“What would your mother think of the message you sent me?”

“never thought about it”

“Go ask her.”

“thatd be awkward”

He never did report back.  I can only hope his mother talked some sense into him.

 

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My Spirit Animal

13 Sep

A few days ago, I received a comment from a reader suggesting that I share some good online dating stories here as well, so that my fellow females can not totally lose hope in online dating.  I knocked him down by saying I don’t and won’t do that, mainly because those interactions are boring.

Naturally, only two short days later, I had a good online dating interaction that I found blog-worthy.    (And – double shock –  It’s from TINDER!)

“What would you say your spirit animal is?”

“I would have to go with a penguin.”   

(I went with a penguin because I feel if I were to be an animal, I’d probably be a penguin.   After further research on the matter, according to my birth date and year, apparently my spirit animal is an aardvark – for any of you collecting Fun Cat Lady Facts.)

“Bluegill sunfish here.”

“Nice!  Wait..  I think that means my spirit animal would eat your spirit animal..”

“How could I convince you to spare my life?”

“You’re in luck, I’m not a big fan of seafood.”

“Haha!  What a relief!”

 

The only real downside to this interaction was that I think he was merely just visiting my area, as Tinder now shows him as quite far away.

See ladies, not all the guys online dating are weirdos.  (However, if you’ve been online dating, you probably already knew that.)

 

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Too Much Information

10 Sep

“well hi, name my is [Name}, you are absolutely beautiful . I am 30, going back to school for Networking Administration, adding to my 4 year degree public health degree, I graduated from [College] in [City}, in 2007 working at [Place] and [Place] at the moment, and i own my own townhouse in [City], i would love to chat with you and learn more about you 🙂
things i like, star trek, cuddling, pizza, computers.
what about you?
i hope to hear from you
[Name]”

When your FIRST form letter doesn’t get a response.. Wait a few days and send the new and improved,  EXTENDED version  (my favorite parts are underlined):

“Well hi, My name is [Name], you are absolutely beautiful . I am 30, going back to school for Networking Administration about half done, adding to my 4 year public health degree, I graduated from [College] in [City] in 2007 working at [Place] and [Totally Different Place Than Last Form Letter] at the moment, and i own my own townhouse in [City], i would love to chat with you and learn more about you 🙂
things i like, star trek, cuddling, pizza, computers, intelligent conversation
i am not looking for a one night thing, unlike it seems most guys out there, i never enjoyed that, nor have i ever done that. i am trying to overcome the large stigma of online dating “guys”… so i am being open and honest. I am interested in your heart and your mind. Those are the things that matter…
tell me more about yourself, i am a chatterbug and love a good stimulating conversation 🙂 try me 🙂
a little more about me 🙂
I was born an extreme premature, 24 week… i was 1.3 pounds. 1% survival chance, eye and lunch damage due to the high O2 environment of the forced respiration. Got my name in the NICU neonatal intensive care unit, the nurses called me [Name plus biblical story], thus i always had [animals] as a baby, stuffed animals and such. in and out of the hospital for about 3 years. started kindergarten at 6 instead of 5. i am an only child… grew up in [cities listed] area. my mom and dad got divorced when i was about 3. graduated from high school in 2003. then when to [College] in [city], from 2003-2007. dated emily for almost 2 years. graduated with a public health degree in dec 2007. lived at home after college, started dating holly from late 2008 to mid 2012…. bought my townhouse in [city] for $37,500 in late 2011. started dating sarah from late 2012 to march 2014… started back to school for networking administration in january 2014… now starting my second semester, very excited, loving school 🙂
so thats me in VERY small nutshell  (that’s what she said?)  🙂 i hope that wasnt too long lol and that it was somewhat interesting to read
i hope to hear from you
[Name]”

Underlined is what I consider far too much information.  Why would you give your dating history in a “first” message?!    And that is allegedly only a small nugget of information?   I’m already bored and we haven’t gone out!

..He did get a good deal on his town home though..

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